“People don’t value what they don’t earn, pay for, work for or invest in”
Be careful what you give to your children without having them earn it. If they are given too much without earning it, they will grow to always expect a hand out. They will not develop into someone who knows how to survive on their own and make life happen. They do not become self-sufficient. One of the best things you can do for your children is teach them how to live life on their own.
There is something so precious about trust. When my daughter gives her cat a bath to get rid of the fleas, he looks up at her with complete trust in his eyes as if to say, “I don’t know why you are doing this horrible thing to me, but I know you love me so I trust you”.
When we violate trust, it is sometimes everlasting and very hard to forgive. Even when we do forgive, it takes forever to rebuild.
Great relationships are built on love, trust, friendship, respect, and communication to name a few. When you violate trust, you tear away at all the values of a relationship.
Think twice before you violating trust in someone you love. Relationships are more important than anything.
There is something very beautiful that can be found at bottom. Rock bottom is when you are free. There’s nothing left to lose. You’re free to start over. You can do anything you want. You can be anything you want. There’s nothing holding you back. It’s a time for reflection and change. It’s another chance with an open canvas. And there is a whole new life waiting.
We have to remember…
That people who intentionally hurt us are hurting inside
They take it out on us sometimes because we are there
They take it out on anyone to release the pain they are feeling
It’s all about what they are going through and how they choose to release their pain
Understanding where they are coming from helps us
It does not excuse their behavior
It does not mean that you should allow abuse
And you should not react in vengeance
It simply means, to me, that I am glad I am not them
One of these days is not tomorrow.
One of these days is today.
Waiting for one of these days is illusionary.
It is wishful thinking without action, fantasy without intent.
If you wait without action, one of these days will pass you by.
If you take action today, one of these days is here.
If I can’t live my life the way I want, then what is the point?
If I can’t be who I authentically am, then what’s the point?
If I can’t feel love, compassion and understanding for others, then what’s the point?
If I can’t be loving, gentle and forgiving of myself, then what’s the point?
If I can’t experience beauty, value and meaning from life, then what’s the point?
If I can’t fulfill my desire to help others, then what’s the point?
If I can’t get up each day feeling band new, passionate and full of life then what’s the point?
If I can’t love, be loved and spend my time with people (and animals) I love, then what’s the point?
If I can’t pursue and live my purpose and make a difference, then what’s the point?
The point is these values are what matter to me and what I aspire to do with my life
and I am going to live them because otherwise there is no point.
If you wait until you are ready you will never begin. You can’t constantly be getting ready to get ready.
So the question is not what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail, but what would you do anyway if you knew you might fail?
What if right now is the perfect moment, even though you may not feel ready? Fear, insecurity, uncertainty, inexperience are not reasons to stop.
Sometimes you only get one chance. What if right now is your one chance. Do you want it to pass you by?
Or would taking a chance be worth the possibility of changing your life?
Dear Future Love of My Life:
I know. I should have written before. Forgive me. But I got the feeling that you were beginning to think I didn’t exist. But I do. And I wanted to let you know that while I might be as elusive as a unicorn grazing in a field of four-leaf clovers, I’m close. I’m around the corner, down the street, on Facebook, in your office, at our local coffee shop, a complete stranger. I made eyes at you once on the subway. I saw you across the room at a party. I swiped you right on Tinder. But it’s not our time yet. And I know you’re wondering why.
It’s really not fair that you’ve had to wait this long, or go on blind dates, endure bad sex, settle for ‘meh’ relationships, feel misunderstood, cry from loneliness, wrap your arms around a pillow as you fall asleep at night. I’m so sorry, my love. You deserve an explanation. So, here it goes. It’s taken me a long time to even admit this to myself much less to you, so please know that everything I’ve written here is true.
The reasons we haven’t met yet, in no particular order:
1. I haven’t thrown out the list of things I think you should be.
2. I’m with the wrong person right now.
3. I’m not ready to be loved unconditionally.
4. Since my life isn’t together, I think you’ll reject me.
5. I still believe that drama is a show of love.
6. I’ve been intentionally keeping my head too busy to think with my heart.
7. I need to date more to understand what I do and don’t like.
8. I won’t be able to appreciate you until life has kicked my ass.
9. I’m too focused on my own needs.
10. I don’t know how to create the feeling of home that lives in my heart.
Clearly, I’m not my best self yet. Or even myself — I’m still figuring out who that is. I’m pretty sure even if we did meet, you wouldn’t like me all that much right now. It’s entirely possible that we did hit it off once, and I left without getting your information; or maybe I did get your number and never called because of any one of the above reasons.
Be patient with me, darling heart. Know that I’m working my way toward you. So don’t spend any more time thinking about where I am or am not. Just keep making your life exciting and full, so when we do finally come together, we can bring each other joy, because we are already happy.
I know it’s taking longer than you’d like. It’s a hell of a lot slower than I could have ever imagined. But I’m here. This is me talking to you. And I’m not going anywhere.
Don’t give up on me.
Yours, in perpetuity,
The Love You Haven’t Met Yet.
Some thoughts today on Love…Hope it helps…Velinda
“Love is life and if you are missing love, you are missing life”
Be in love with life…experience it all…the newness and the pain. There’s something miraculous about a love for life that brings all we want and need.
If you experience pain…remember the experience, learn the lesson and KNOW that there is new love on the way
Open your heart… a closed heart never finds love
Don’t hold back…vulnerability is not weakness, it is power
Align yourself completely with your uniqueness…your needs, dreams, and desires…and you will find someone who resonates with you
Get into life to feel and experience all the richness that awaits…love is not found sitting in your living room. (And remember, real relationships are not the ones you have on your cell phone or Facebook)
Do what you love…in a job, a hobby, or giving to others…doing what you love makes you feel alive
Because in the end all that matters is that you experienced love
“Love is the bridge between you and everything”